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Small Group Ministry: a Sample Session

Here is a sample session typical of what you might experience in Small Group Ministry.

Session Title – Living with Fear *

* adapted from First Unitarian Society in Newton session

1. Chalice Lighting/Opening Words: 5 minutes

Here may no one be altogether stranger, no honesty of thought ignored, no depth of feeling easily dismissed, no life belittled and no life shut out. May whatever clarity of mind and heart we bring be humbly treasured, brought to bear toward word and person. May fellowship be treasured most of all, and paths to its sustaining and renewing sought and found. May growth of mind and spirit be our purpose; such new understanding as shall lead us to new ways in which to blend our lives.
– Donald Johnston

2. Check-in/Sharing: up to 30 minutes

Each person takes a couple of minutes to check-in. How is it with your spirit? What you share may be about your spiritual or physical health, a care or concern for a loved one, or an issue you are facing.

3. Topic: Total time 60 minutes

A. Introduction to Topic and Questions: 5 minutes

By any conventional measure, a mere seven years after my graduation day, I had failed on an epic scale. An exceptionally short-lived marriage had imploded, and I was jobless, a lone parent, and as poor as it is possible to be in modern Britain, without being homeless. The fears that my parents had had for me, and that I had had for myself, had both come to pass, and by every usual standard, I was the biggest failure I knew.

I was set free, because my greatest fear had been realised, and I was still alive, and I still had a daughter whom I adored, and I had an old typewriter and a big idea. And so rock bottom became the solid foundation on which I rebuilt my life. You might never fail on the scale I did, but some failure in life is inevitable. It is impossible to live without failing at something, unless you live so cautiously that you might as well not have lived at all…
– J. K. Rowling, in her commencement address at Harvard University

Fear of failure. Fear of dependency. Fear of losing all we have. Fear of others’ judgments. All of our lives have been shaped to some extent by fear. How many of us are not living our dreams because we are living our fears? Take a moment to reflect, then write briefly, your thoughts and feelings on these questions:

What are you afraid of – from the small fears you may be embarrassed about to the large ones?

How has your life been shaped, impacted, effected by fear? Fear may have shaped your life in ways you consider both positive and negative.

How have you overcome fear in your life? Who or what has helped you? What resources have you drawn upon?

B. Silence for Reflection/Writing/Drawing: 5 minutes

Take some time to reflect on today’s topic. Use this time for writing and drawing your responses to the questions if you wish.

C. Sharing: 50 minutes

Each person has five minutes to share their response as they feel moved (or they may pass). If there is time, the group moves into a discussion of the theme.

4. Check-out: 10 minutes

Check out with a final thought or reflection about living with fear (or any other thoughts or reflections about the session) and how having shared and learned about this might impact your life in any way in the week ahead.

5. Closing Words and Extinguish the Chalice: 5 minutes

All of us are born with a set of instinctive fears~~of falling, of the dark, of lobsters, of falling on lobsters in the dark, or speaking before a Rotary Club, and of the words “Some Assembly Required.”
– Dave Barry
I keep the telephone of my mind open to peace, harmony, health, love, and abundance. Then whenever doubt, anxiety, or fear try to call me, they keep getting a busy signal and soon they’ll forget my number.
– Edith Armstrong

6. Blessing

May love surround you
May joy gladden you
May peace lie deep within
May your life, and the lives of all those you love
Go well.
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Most recently updated 2009-09-30